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I am going to tell you a secret. It may be the first time you have heard this...
Being married is hard. Like crazy hard.
DISCLAIMER- As I write this right now I am afraid that I will sound judgmental. That is not my intention at all. I do not mean to sound like a know it all either.
What made me think of this is a person that I know. I was at her wedding. I remember it very well. I do not know what made me think of this. She is divorced now. I remember thinking I was at your wedding... you promised until death do you part. I wondered what happened. What was the final straw? Did he leave the toilet seat up one too many times? Did she forget to turn the shower head off?
I have been married 21 years. You can not put 21 years of marriage in a meme. You can not describe it with a single quote. Every good Southern girl can quote those lines from Sweet Home Alabama -Young Melanie: Why would you want to marry me for, anyhow?
Love is more than someone bringing you roses everyday (coffee is a nice alternative though.) Love is more cooking whatever his or her favorite meal is. Love is more than your sweetie buying you the dog/cat/pig/turtle you want. Love isn't just the happy stuff. Love is the bad stuff too...when the lights go out because you forgot to pay the bill, when one of you hit the fourth deer with the same car in three years. Love is going fishing even though you hate it because you want to spend time together. Love is siting down and paying bills, love is washing the dishes, love is folding laundry. Love is putting the seat up or down depending on which bathroom you are in. Love is rubbing Vicks and Bengay.
Love is holding hands as a parent dies. Love is shedding tears when a long time dream dies.
Love is face timing your partner when your song come on the radio so you can sing it together. Love is celebrating accomplishments of individually and as a couple.
I know that you have your own definition of love. Being married is all about finding someone you love and spending the rest of your life with them.
Marriage is more than just a wedding...marriage is what happens everyday after the wedding. Marriage is...marriage is...life.
Not long after I married I asked a wise older lady who was celebrating her 50th anniversary if she every thought about killing her husband. Without thinking she said yes. I explained "No really if you could have killed him and gotten away with it would you?" "Yes!" I knew then that it would be okay.
This week alone I wanted to smack my honey because he wasn't listening to being over the moon when he sent me a picture of the kitchen table that he cleaned off.
When you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you are attempting to join two lives into one. There will be comprises. I don't like fishing because I can't stay quiet that long but hubby can go whenever he wants. I like taking landscape pictures so hubby drives me so I can take them. I read, he doesn't (he knows how he just isn't a reader) so I go to bookstores. I like sushi and he uses it for bait but he picks it up for me when he gets a chance. We learned that we don't have to do everything together.
I do know who Hank Williams is and have "Kaw Ligia" in my ipod and I know his version is better than Charlie Pride's. I know there is a town named Saginaw Michigan and that there was a Carroll County accident that was probably caused by Big John. I know this because my hunny loves old county music and now I love it. He watches NCIS and Big Bang Theory. He understands my love for Matthew McConaughey.
Our marriage is in no way perfect. Everyday (7,917) for the past 21 years we have decided that we will stick it out one more day. We will defend one another to death. We are a team, we are partners. We are we. When you see us at any given point we may like each other or can't stand each other but there is no doubt that we are there for each other.